What’s the Best Possible Outcome? A Quick Exercise in Dealing with Negative Thoughts

I’ve been trying something new lately. I have caught myself so many times recently fuming in my quiet moments over unfairness done to or around me, and it is toxic.

I realized that these thoughts are natural and they WILL happen, but I have control over what happens next. I have been actively on the lookout for these moments, and replacing the negative thoughts with ideas of what I want in my life a year from now, or just in the future at large. It’s incredibly refreshing to shift my focus and shift my energy, and I have noted that ideas and creativity flow more freely when I work on this. I call it “tending my Secret Garden” (lol I know it’s corny).

Anyone who has had a Reiki session with me knows that I teach a version of the Secret Garden meditation where I guide my client through a peaceful landscape that ultimately leads to their Spirit Guide. That landscape is the visualization of their soul, their dreams, all of the positive and beautiful things they hold dear to themselves, and once visualized, it is always there to be used later as a tool to remind ourselves what we treasure and what our minds are capable of creating—beauty, love, and peace ☮️.

Essentially, the idea of the Secret Garden is to simultaneously discover in yourself what you hold most dear, who you want to be, and that you have the power to change your own emotional landscape for the better. Whatever you imagine determines the conditions of the path you walk to that destiny—whether you make the sun shine or the thunder boom in the Secret Garden is up to you.

I leave you today then with one small piece of peace to keep in mind: What WOULD happen if, instead of focusing on the worst, you asked yourself—what’s the BEST that could happen? #soulunfold #breakingthecycle #changeyourmindset


I encountered this post this weekend, shared by a Facebook group that I follow (Universal States of Consciousness). As it turns out, it was good advice I didn’t know I would need yet.

I often tell myself something similar, to not let myself be swept up in the chaos of others, and to focus on my own path. When I find myself in a position to offer solace to another for a wrong done by some human party, I also say something similar: “it says more about them than it does about you.”

The way people treat us—it’s a reflection of their personality, their values, their moral code, what they hold to be important. It is not a reflection of who we are, or what we care about.

What reflects on us is how we absorb or deflect it—essentially, how we react to the stimulus.

If you agree with the person offering you feedback and you think you should change, accept it with grace and go forth and change to your greatest potential.

Otherwise, just let it reflect off of you back to them. Remind yourself of your focus, what you’re proud of, what YOU choose in this life, and keep choosing it. Never let someone else’s unresolved burdens pull you down.

Rise above the unreal opinions of others. Flick your light on so you can’t see the shadows around you, and blaze a trail forward, doing what YOU know is right and authentic for you. Fall in love with the authenticity and deep kindnesses of your life, and remember in the end that only love is real.